is there any life like the one you live on sundays? you could string sundays together and get the whole of a person’s dreams. sundays i sleep too late and eat something bright for breakfast — a yolky egg, some blueberries, lox. walk to the store instead of taking the train just because i’ve got the time to move my body in the day. remember i too am an animal on this planet. the light in the kitchen windows is softer, slower, still fades before you’re ready. i don’t remember the luxury of that runny egg but at the other end of the day i’m going to take a bath just for the sake of scent. something is going to make me cry but because i saw the sun today it will be the good kind, not creaky but gentle. not desperate, but honest.

there are things i still want, maybe more than ever, but it’s not time, yet, it’s okay, let the water run until it’s hot, put on some jazz but change your mind at the last minute and indulge in a pop song on repeat, it’s sunday evening and the living is hard but it’s never been easier.

a litany of unsent love notes

things scrawled on my hand at the end of a day:

“joan didion at the ‘96 dnc”
“percentage of nazis in sweden”
“richard iii”

and your name, right at the base of my thumb, imperceptible

what’s important is not how i feel about you — like i’m coming apart, like the first fifteen seconds of a sixteen second free-fall — but how often I feel it.

i have gotten drunk again and want to talk to everyone i’ve ever kissed twice. lately i have been thinking a lot about last kisses. i’m sorry. i know that makes me terrible in a way where knowing that it makes me terrible doesn’t make me any less terrible than shouting i’m fine in the bar makes me fine.

“i’m not one for writing love poetry,” you said, and then you did, for me.

do we just love people forever? do we just break their hearts and let them break ours and love them a little, a funny little soft spot of our heart that will always be a slightly different shade than the rest?

one leg tucked beneath myself on the ugly old couch by the window and an old text message that reads “I’ve got the windows open a d I love you”. I was drunk & you were not & I thought for a moment that being in love with you was finally as easy as falling in love with you had been.

we don’t talk about last kisses and none of us know what we weigh but it’s understood that everything would be different if we had the chance. 

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there is no crying in iceland

in america i cry on fire escapes and in the coffee shop above the bookstore. there is no direction in my life safe enough to consider: the past is too far away, the future is too much.

on the last leg of the walk home from the bar, we shout at the cathedral on my corner. fourteen years ago aaron sorkin maybe got high and maybe got angry and definitely wrote the words that we shout at the cathedral on my corner on the last leg of the walk home from the bar. the boy walking me home goes into the bit about accomplishments, he shouts, “3.8 million new jobs, that wasn’t good?” he shouts, “put mendoza on the bench, we’re not fighting a war,” and i can feel something push against that purple-bruised part of my cerebrum, oh no, i’m sorry.

there are things we lose and there are things we never really had and we don’t talk about any of them.

the boy is good, he stops shouting and puts his arms around me, and we stand in front of the cathedral on my corner until i am ready to finish the last leg of the walk home.

in iceland everything is foreign in most senses of the word. in a national park forty minutes east of the capital, volcanic rocks are arranged in short, individual pillars called cairns and no one will tell me why. i go home and don’t google it. it’s better this way.

sometimes i want to call you up and ask if you remember when we were in love, but you’re probably busy. anyway we didn’t make phone calls then, either.

i never learn enough icelandic to ask questions. instead, i climb mountains i’ve never seen before and don’t even cry once.


Sometimes I’m okay but then I have to cry in an elevator realquickjustasecond between floors and don’t you dare pretend you can open “Play It As It Lays” without picturing my face and why don’t I want you to be sad? and—

I’m okay.

I do all of my best writing on buses after midnight; when it’s liquid black and everyone just wants to get somewhere. Heavy wheels against gravel. The ghosts of street signs. “Rest ahead”. We all just want to get home.

I do all of my worst writing on the couch beneath the window at sunset, where if I don’t look up for a while, the golden light catches me by surprise, and I remember suddenly: you exist & you don’t love me & you did, once, maybe.

The last time you kissed me goodbye ( the only time you kissed me goodbye ) you told me “see you soon” and I tried not to throw up in the airport bathroom because I knew, somehow, that you wouldn’t.

I am writing this on the couch beneath the window at sunset. It feels young and indulgent and embarrassing, it feels the way I feel when I catch a glimpse of you,

but I’m okay.

CCCXXXVIII. deliver us from college

we sit on the couch, sock feet against bare feet beneath a pilling fleece blanket, and eat a burnt white pizza drenched in sriracha. the fifth season of friends is on the tv but we started at the end of the disc so we’ll loop all the way around until phoebe meets the health inspector she’ll dump fourteen minutes later. we had ice cream before we even started the oven. all of the mugs on the end table are mine. it is all very normal, so normal, we’re four episodes in when we have to say it, “isn’t it weird how normal this all is?” and she nods, “absolutely bizarre,” and grabs the black crust off of my plate. i do not stay the night, two people in a bed that fits three; i reapply my lipstick and walk home in the dark. completely normal.

My father’s favorite fact about himself is that he lived in three different basements over the course of seventh grade.

Even now, I remember how excited they were about the laundry chute. You can’t get those in a new house, they told people proudly. You have to buy it that way. Neither of them had ever lived in a house before and now here they were with one of their own, a house with four bedrooms and a beige exterior so boring that none of the new suburban neighbors would ever guess they’d had horribly damaged childhoods. Four bedrooms and a basketball hoop and that laundry chute.

If a holiday overlapped with a stretch of time when my mother was talking to her family, we’d road trip to the very tip of Illinois, and she’d drive me past the spot where the rickety cabin in which she spent her pre-teen years used to stand. A little burnt patch of grass at the end of a narrow sidewalk that no longer leads anywhere.

(Above the row of nylon straps on the campus bus, there’s a print ad that reads, “Facing Foreclosure? We Can Help!”)

We settled into the house as if we’d be there when it burned to the ground. Painted all of the bedrooms—navy blue for my brother, bright purple for me, colors that can’t be covered. We drilled holes in the walls and threw things against the ceiling. My name is written in marker on the back of every carpet, in leftover purple pain on the walls of the garage, in pen along the baseboards in the upstairs hallway. 

The lawyer said the auction is set for the 14th, my mother tells me, as casually as she’d tell me that a middle school teacher had gotten married.

For my 13th birthday, my parents turned the basement into a dance studio, complete with wood floors and mirrors across the wall and a ballet barre that my mother built by hand in our garage.

I find myself craving the expanse of a dining room table. I insist on bringing wine over to friends who live in old houses with stained carpets and enough kitchen counter for me to sit comfortably, letting my feet dangle against cracked cabinet doors. I linger at sliding glass doors, staring at dirty backyard furniture piled with snow.

Above the light switch in the garage is an inscription in faded gold paint: “in this house live two beautiful children and their two loving parents”. The author is long buried, and we are four people now in four different apartments, and the house goes to auction on Valentine’s Day.

There’s a metaphor here, somewhere.

CCCXXXVII. sorry 4 boy-bloggin’

four: When I think about it later—about his hand wrapped around my hip in the yellow light of the sodium lamp in the alley—it feels like all the blood has disappeared from my body.

I assume that means things are going well.

three: I am very drunk on a Saturday night in the middle of nowhere, my middle of nowhere, in a bar I can see from my bedroom window. PBR is a dollar on Saturday nights and so satisfyingly terrible, and I am very, very drunk. He asks me to explain a Meryl Streep movie to him, and from one thousand miles away I can hear him laughing when I do, can see that dooming lopsided smile when I apologize for being so very, very, very drunk and he tells me, “no, it was perfect”.

two: The bus is more than two hours late and when we finally form a disorderly line I start laughing, wild and quietly. “You seem pretty happy,” says the guy next to me, awkwardly shuffling forward with what are clearly illicit skis wrapped in a blanket, and I can’t say, “I think maybe there is a boy at the other end of this trip who will call me sug, and I am young enough, I have not yet been failed by lopsided-smiling boys, I think this is everything,” so instead I just laugh, “I love a good bus ride”.

one: It happens, I know it will happen and then it does. We go back into the bar where our friends are drunk & happy & waiting like nothing happened. I do not look I do not look I absolutely do not look. On his jaw is a perfect smudge of red lipstick.


I have kissed no one since you. Isn’t that ridiculous? I forget it, and then suddenly it strikes me all over again, like a creased poem falling out of a book last read months ago. Lately everything I do is just for the sake of making myself laugh. I get drunk on cheap wine on Tuesdays. I watch the same movie each morning for a week. I don’t eat, and then I eat nothing but matzo.

You loved me silly. You loved me like you were inventing it.

There is a person waving from six months down the tunnel, and I think she might be me. I bet she stands above cities at night. I bet she knows how not to be afraid of the underpass beneath Lake Shore Drive. I bet she drinks gin.

There’s a boy who sits next to me in class, who scribbles notes to me about my lipstick, who grins when he touches my thigh and asks for a sip of my diet Coke. He loves Faulkner, and he doesn’t love me, and I like it that way.

There is a girl waving from down the tunnel, and I can’t quite tell what color her hair is.

CCCXXXV. the way to really fly

Is there a German word for the purity that comes with perching on a stool in the train station food court at midnight and somehow only feeling possibility? Between the dull light of the McDonald’s and the apathy of conductors waiting for their last ride out beats a thrum of changing seasons. Everyone knows the only summer days worth waiting for are the first and the last.

I press my hands against my face and feel the warmth of everyone who’s grinned a doofy grin when I entered a room and made fun of my age the right way. The ultimate intimacy lies in not flinching when someone tousles your hair.

(For a time, there were castles in my future.

For a time, there was nothing.)

The girl with the backpack across from me is wearing the same sunglasses we handed to the graduating class of 2009 with a little note that read “your future’s so bright, you need shades!”. I feel so stupidly lucky that I get to sit at this plastic counter with a stale doughnut on a Tuesday night, waiting for a train that’s still an hour away. Summer will thrum for a few days more. I wrap my fist around possibility and hold it tight.

See ya soon, kid.


A poem, someone’s angry with God, isn’t someone always angry with God? A panic attack, and I never make it to the second verse because all of my grandmothers are dead and from whom am I to get wrinkled, soft advice? From whom am I to get wisdom that sounds like it’s being read from an old diary, written long before I was born?

I could call a therapist, but what would I even say? “I’ve been crying a lot lately”. I’ve always been crying a lot lately. I’m still sleeping in this fucking sweatshirt four days after it should have been washed and six days after it’s stopped smelling like you.

There’s a ghost in my bed. The opposite of a ghost, really; I willed it into existence. “22. I miss you bad.” There were days when you tugged and I was an astronaut who suddenly realized they’d been tethered home the entire time. Now I hold the rope tight and watch for you to pull scissors from your pocket.

There are poems I won’t ever read past the first line again. 

There are places I didn’t take you because I didn’t want to have to forget them once you were gone.

I’m sorry.